So it’s been a few months since Mr. MSM and I broke up and went our separate ways. Since then I’ve pretty much been lying low on the dating scene. I’ve gone out with a few guys but until recently no one had really piqued my interest.
During Congressional Black Caucus (CBC) weekend, I was out and about as usual and ended up meeting one guy. He seemed to be a “nice” guy, no more no less. I know here we go with the “nice” descriptor women use to describe a man she’s really not that into or at least not that into at the moment.
He was overweight, while I’m being honest he was more so morbidly obese, but again he seemed to have a pleasant demeanor so I decided to be more open to someone who wasn’t physically what I’m looking for. After all, you can always change being overweight, nothing a little gym time and healthy eating habits couldn’t fix. After our first and only date, I realized he was an obnoxious, name-dropper with a potty mouth plus he was 16 years my senior. Umm, no thanks. Next.
The next guy, who I liked to refer to as my MBA boo, we met in Atlanta at the NBMBAA conference in October. Honestly, he was the epitome of what I like physically in that he was tall and handsome. I looked past the fact he was 36 with a 18-year-old son, hey things happen. I met him the first day I was down there and we met up each day. We ended up going on a date before I flew back home. We continued talking/texting for like a week, then it fizzled out. With him being in Atlanta and me being here, I didn’t really expect much to come of it because I’m not big on long distance. Oh well.
So two weeks ago, I went to my favorite annual Halloween party. I got there early and claimed a space with my girls. Honestly, I was simply going to have fun didn’t intend on meeting anyone, eventhough my girl claims I always meet people when we go out.
Close to the end of the night, I decided to venture away from my girls and make my rounds. As soon as I did this guy in a ridiculous costume, wig and all, approached me, gotta love Halloween. It was refreshing that he didn’t try to spit game, we’re too old for that, besides I usually see past that anyway. We just had a pretty standard conversation, from what I remember after having a few drinks that night.
Fast forward, it’s only been two weeks and we’ve been out a few times. I’ve already meet several of his friends, it’s always nice to be welcomed into someone else’s world. Another interesting thing is we both work in the same field, are only children, love to eat, cook and travel and he knows what Jack & Jill is. A bourgie girls dream come true. No let me stop LOL. So far he seems cool. We’ll see where things go from here…
Ok so of course I want all successful, together women to find their Prince Charming, but I gotta tell you, I’m relieved I’m not the only one going through this mess.
It’s nice reading your posts because you’re kind of old school in the way that you date and so am I. Glad to see that you are sticking to your high standards and morals and not settling for just any guy.
It really shouldn’t be this hard to meet good men, but it is. Sigh.
If it makes you feel better, I recently went out with a white guy who, in the middle of the date says, “I’ve always wanted to try a Black girl. You guys seem like you’re amazing in bed.” I’d been on so many bad dates by that point that I just replied, “Damnit, another moron” and left.
That said, have you tried dating outside of your race? I date all types. The white guy I just mentioned was a jerk of course, but it’s not a bad idea to try it out.
-V
Hi Victoria *waves hey*. Can’t believe that guy said that to you. If he just thought it that would be one thing but that was so inappropriate of him to say. I actually have never dated a White guy. It’s not that I wouldn’t, just haven’t really had an opportunity to do so. I’ve been saying I wanted to date a White or someone of another race guy and a police man. Kind of random I know, just want to try something different.
I have dated a white guy, hell I was engaged to one. Both exes were the nicest guys ever. The guy you went on a date with was a d-bag! Dating outside of our race is something men do all of the time. We should as well, let’s not put baby in a corner.
Glad you’re back! I hope this works out for you. At least it’s great that you guys have so much in common. Good luck!
Interesting blog, good luck!
I am *DEAD* at know what Jack and Jill is!!